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Thursday Thoughts: Enneagram Ways to Cope

Hello! So, I’ve shared before about my Enneagram type being a 5w6. (Investigator/Loyalist) In my last Enneagram post, I shared how I’d started following @cathartic_word on Instagram. Erin’s graphics are so cool, and always seem to ring true for the Enneagram types which I think is so fun.

I recently saw her Ways to Cope series, and thought I’d chat about that.

Everyone copes with sadness, frustration, anxiety, worry, and more throughout their lives. I see with my students or my own kids, that they don’t always know how to cope with all of their feelings and emotions. Knowing how to cope is beneficial and a perk of being an adult. πŸ˜‰

So here’s the breakdown for my Type 5w6…

Type 5:

graphic c/o @cathartic_word May 20,2020
  • Solo trip to the movies: Solo anything! πŸ˜‰ I feel like when I’m overwhelmed, I need space. I need time to think and decompress. A movie would be a great way to do that, and I find comfort in watching reruns of familiar shows like The Golden Girls or cooking shows….I’m basically wanting to watch something where I don’t have to think.
  • Something innovative: For me, something innovative would be writing a blog post. Or…do you know what else I love? Those coloring books with all the details. I loved when my kids were little and liked to color. Hayden likes to draw right now. I’m not a drawer…but I definitely like to use colored pencils or the thin tipped markers for coloring pages. I even have a Golden Girls coloring book.
  • The entire pot of coffee: Yes. Coffee. On repeat. Besides needing coffee to wake up my brain and function, I always feel warm and cozy in the morning when I light a couple of candles, sip my coffee, and read blogs or scroll social media.
  • Writing: I’ve always loved journaling. At different points in my life, it’s been a priority and other times not so much. Obviously, the blog satisfies that need and can be a form of coping.
  • Learn something new: Of all things listed for Type 5, this is least like me. I’m not opposed to learning something new (I am a teacher, after all!), but actually when I need to decompress, it’s usually because my brain is too full, and I just need a minute to unwind my thoughts and feelings.

Type 6:

graphic c/o @cathartic_word May 19, 2020
  • Long walks: Yes! I love a solo long walk. It’s a great time to think about my day or plan upcoming days. Kind of like watching a familiar show, I enjoy listening to podcasts when I walk as a way to zone out and cope.
  • Dogs: Of course! You know I’m a dog person. I’ve shared about our previous dogs Shiloh and Scout…and now we have Homer. I’m always amazed at how animals know when you need them. Even Homer, who can be wild and crazy, knows when I (or any other family member) needs a good snuggle for comfort.
  • A good book: I love getting lost in a good book. Reading is certainly a way to cope for me.
  • Catching up on sleep: I’m forever tired. I always need more sleep, but even in my day to day life, which can be hectic, I find that I’m making sleep a priority more and more. If there is something I’m struggling with, then the lounging in my bed for a few minutes with my eyes closed is so helpful for me to calm my thoughts and get my mind right.
  • Music: I’ve never been a big music person. For me, like I said above, I’d probably choose a podcast over music as a way to decompress. I also really love silence in the car. I’m the type that turns down the radio to think. πŸ˜‰

I don’t get too caught up in my numbers…and sometimes I think I’m more of a 6 than a 5…I think 6w5 is an option;) but I do find it interesting. If you haven’t checked out Erin on Instagram yet, you should! Go find the graphic for your type!

What’s your Enneagram number? This is the test I took about a year ago. I’ve thought about taking it again…but then what if my number has changed? I’d be so confused! haha

See you back here tomorrow for this week’s Friday Favorites post.

Take care,

Posted in Thursday Thoughts

Thursday Thoughts

Hello! Real talk over here…this week is kicking my tail. I’m feeling a bit spread thin which, in turn, makes me feel overwhelmed. I honestly didn’t have the time to write this post, but when I’m feeling anxious or overwhelmed, I try to control what I can…which means I’ve organized my kids’ desk/work spaces, purged the office cabinet, and written (and re-written) my “to do” lists on sticky notes for each day.

The reason I went ahead and found time to write this post is because another form of comfort for me is journaling. It’s also something I don’t do very often anymore. And…I’ve realized, I guess my blog is now my journal πŸ˜‰

So, I thought I’d take a second to pause, take a breath, and reflect on…

7 things that make me happy

  1. My morning cup of coffee: It’s nice to start my day with the routine of a cup of coffee. It’s a great way to wake up and warm up.
  2. Quiet time: I get my quiet/me time in while the family is still sleeping. Starting next week, I will probably need to go back to getting up around 6 (rather than 6:45) to have time to myself before waking the kids. The time to myself is honestly a treat to me before starting the hustle and bustle of the day. I don’t feel like my mind is set and ready for the day if I don’t get a little “me” time.
  3. Homer: As with our previous pups, he knows when I need a little extra love. Homer snuggles are the best. I let him in on my morning quiet time πŸ™‚
  4. Amazon: Seriously, Amazon has been saving my sanity for quite some time…Just in the past week, I’ve purchased a desk for Hayden and a few school supplies and organizational containers for the kids. Amazon saved me the time, energy, and stress of having to go to multiple stores looking for those items.
  5. Sonic Cherry Limeade: So refreshing on a hot summer day!
  6. Books: Some days I have more time to read than others, but I try to find a few minutes each day. I’ve been failing at that this week. I started the book 28 Summers, and it’s sooo good. I just wish I could find more time right now to sit and read.
  7. Impromptu visits with friends: Obviously with all that’s going on and living in a socially distant world, there haven’t been as many social outings as usual. But…just last week I had a work meeting with a couple of work friends, and had a great time! Then, earlier this week, I stopped my neighbor’s house to tell Hadley I was home, and ended up chatting with two of my neighbors (who are, of course, my friends) which also included a glass of wine! My “to do” list is a mile long, but I didn’t realize how much I needed to catch up and just relax for an hour.

**(Bonus: #8…of course, I my kids and husband are included on this list as well…but I was just trying to remind myself of the smaller things in life that bring me joy!) πŸ™‚

One last thought…

I’ve seen this post a time or two on social media, and again this week.

As kids transition back into school buildings for the first time since March, start a new school, or receive instruction virtually, I thought this was a good reminder to discuss with our own kids about having sympathy and empathy for their classmates.

Times are tough…and unprecedented.

You never know what a child has experienced while at home for so long.

It’s difficult and nerve-wracking to be the new student.

Kids may be worried about their next meal or getting the proper school supplies.

Even kids who are loved and taken care of struggle with a different routine and life changes which I know from personal experience with my own children.

I always tell my kids, “Do your best, be kind, and be a leader.” (& have fun πŸ˜‰ It’s kind of my life motto for them (whether they like it or not). πŸ˜‰ It applies to school, sports, friendships and more.

Thanks so much for reading and take care,