Hello from dreary Kentucky. I swear we can’t buy some sunshine!
So far this year, we’ve looked at:
- How you organize for the new year in January
- What you eat in a week in February
- Your faves from high school/college in March (I didn’t do LL in March)
This month, we are looking at: how you plan / do date nights
Date night. What’s that? Does a night at the ballpark count because that’s where we were last night. 😂
Well, date nights were easier before we had two kids pulling us in ten different directions. (Although I always say we’re blessed to be busy!)
We’ve been together since 2001. Travis says he’s never ‘gone with’ anyone as long as he’s ‘gone with’ me! 😆
It’s very rare for us to have a traditional date night. We always go out to dinner around Valentine’s Day and for our anniversary in June. Do we go out other times just the two of us to eat? Yes, but we make an effort to make reservations somewhere for those two occasions.
Since we don’t have family in town, we’ve always had to schedule sitter when trying to go to football games, celebrate special occasions, and more. Thankfully, it usually worked out, but it’s still more effort than being able to rely on a grandparent in town.
Honestly, we just do simple things together when we can like run an errand, go for a walk, or watch a show together. Ozark is a fave show of ours.
Now that the kids are older, we are able to go out with friends spur of the moment if we can’t find a sitter. Just last Saturday, we went to see a concert with some friends pretty; those plans came together pretty quickly. (My mom and Gma held down the fort while we were out.)
In October and April, we try to get out to Keeneland for a few races. Travis goes out there quite a bit during the meets, but I try to take a Friday afternoon to join him at least once a meet.
I’ve been fortunate enough to tag along on some work trips which gives us stretches of time together.
We went to Del Mar last August which is one of our favorite places.
I remember after our first vacation as a family, the kids had a scheduled doctor’s appointment when we got home. Our pediatrician said leaving town, even to the beach, is more like a trip than a vacation while kids are little. I agree!
That being said, now that the kids are older, I do feel like we are on more of a relaxing vacation when we go out of town. On vacay, Travis and I will drink our coffee on the beach while the kids sleep in…
…or catch a sunset while on vacay with a glass of wine.
We are so busy that anything outside of the house probably needs to be scheduled. We are fortunate now that the kids are old enough that we can leave them home a bit to run an errand together or go to dinner.
Also, this past year has also proven that the kids have very busy social lives and there have been a handful of times when both kids have had impromptu overnights with friends leaving us with a free evening. Honestly, sometimes that means we order takeout sushi and watch a movie at home rather than go out on the town.
We are at least intentional about spending time together when we can. Even if it’s not a huge “to do” like going to a restaurant.
So, that’s a peek at how we do date nights. I know we should be better at scheduling these, but I’m thankful that I have someone that I enjoy spending so much time with even if it’s grabbing a Starbucks and wandering around Home Depot!
We’ll celebrate 17 years of marriage together in June.
Thanks so much for reading. I hope you have a great day.